The art of communication

Conversation; At least two people are sharing some information equally.

Speech: most of the times,only person is speaking.

I love when people put feelings in theirs way of speaking, such as when a person tells others something with excitement, the audience can feel the excitement he had felt because of his voice tone, as he lets his voice be little higher, the listeners will likely be more interested and excited to hear what is the next thing he will say.

That above example is different then screaming or shouting.

I think there are special occasions a person may need to say a speech but I think for not formal occasions; people being together and a person starts a speech, it is rude and disrespectful for others especially if they were not asked.

I noticed sometimes if people are in a group then, a person say something about a topic then continuously talks non stop. I think it is not polite behavior, just to ignore anybody.

There are some situations, the talking is always from one person only, he, do not let others say their opinion because he is in a rush to talk. Most of those times I get nervous because I think that they person is not trying to keep up the conversation but turning it to a speech and not considering other people’s rights and feelings.

I personally do not like speeches except if the situation needs it because they usually serve only one thing and do not show others (the speaker’s ) real personality due to its being pre- planned. I think they are very good for graduating for example.

What about you? What are your thoughts?

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كبار الصغار

  لاحضت من فترة قصيرة، في ناس ينجذبون نحو الشكوى من كل شيئ، كالجو . برغم من علم الناس ان الشكوى لن تغيير شيئ. الشكوى يجب ان تكون للاشياء الذي لها قيمه في حياة الانسان و مستقبله التي تسيطر على حياته اليومية ويريد ان يجد حلا لها لكن لا يستطيع فيآخذ راى الاخرين.

اعتقد ان الناس ، الشباب و الكبار في السن يريدون جذب انتباه الأخرين لهم كالاطفال لكن هم كبار فيستخدمون المواضيع المختلفة و في بعض الاحيان تكون مستفزة لجذب انتباه الاخرين لهم. انا اعتقد لدى الكبار نفس احتياجات الاطفال من ناحية التعامل مع الاخرين لكن معقدة اكثر .الصغار ( الاطفال) غالبا لا يكون عندهم مشكلة ان يطلبوا ان يهتم بهم الاخرين، و هذا الطبع ليس موجود عند الكبار

لكن لاحضت في بعض الاحيان الناس يتكلمون في طريقة استفزازية طوال الوقت كانهم في حرب، لكن المفترض هم  يتجاذبون الاحاديث لمعرفة اخبار حياة كل شخص منهم و افكاره و يستمتعون بوقتهم و تنويع المعلومات لكل واحد عن كل موضوع دون   توتر و عصبية. في رأي هذا التصرف السابق  ممكن ان يكون من اسباب ابتعاد الناس عن التجمعات لان اغلب الناس عندما  يذهبون للتجمعات يريدون ان يقضوا وقت مرح و مفيد. .

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With others

Most people think that if they pretend to be interested in a specific topic, it won’t appear to others they are pretending but actually, people do notice.

Similar to creating a character in a story but in real life, a person act or behave as they think how the image in his/her mind could do. I think this is the reason people do not show their true selves.  

In my opinion: When a person shows to others his true self, others will love to spend thier time with him and they will really get to know each other because they can show him their real thoughts too. It could be scary for a person to show others his true self without comparing himself with the idea he has in his mind but it is worth it.

Just discovered: To be interesting to others: you have to be interested in the topic you are talking about.

If you are not interested even if you are showing to the other person the opposite, he will notice in a way or another.

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Use your voice

I have noticed some people do not really care to the way they speak in. They keep their voice to the same level throughout the entire speech or conversations. I think that is not a good way to speak. Each person can change his voice such as he could scream in excitement if the thing he talks about is exciting, his audience will most likely get excited with him.

Voice changing in any conversation is similar to writing when using bold, Italic, and underline. It lets the writing be more attractive to others and the lets people pay attention to the important things in the writing. I think conversations should be held similar to that way.

Most of the times if a person speaks for long times (even if a person is with friends and family) if he dose not change his voice tone, or way of speech most likely the topic that he speaks about will be boring to others to hear.

The key is for a person to know when to use which tone of his voice in a conversation.

Sadly, I notice most people do not pay attention to the previous thought while it is very Important and it could be applied to any language a person uses to speak in because it lets the topic or conversation a person is talking about more interesting. Every person or almost every person can make his voice louder or less loud then, he should know how can he use that way to to have other people’s true attention to his words.

(What I meant about; True attention: The kind of attention a person gives to others that he dose not checks his mobile or other things, certainly do not interrupts the other person.)

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كأنه مشغول

في ناس في الدنيا تحب ان توهم الاخرين بانهم مشغولين او لديهم جدول اعمال مزدحم ضنا منهم ان الاخرين ستكون فكرتهم عنهم انهم اشخاص ذوو قيمة و لكن الحقيقه غير ذلك . من الجيد ان يكون للانسان اهداف و اعمال يوميه ولا بأس ان يعتذر عن مقابلة الاخرين بسبب انشغاله كالدراسة او ممارسة الرياضة مثلا  اذا كان حقا يفعل ما يقوله .

لاحظت ان بعض الناس يستخدمون هذه الأعذار فقط لكي يتهربوا من الموعد او الجلوس مع الاخرين . ظنا منهم ان الناس ستعطيهم اهمية اكثر ولن يكتشفوا الحقيقة عنهم و لكن الحقيقة دوما تظهر مهما طال الوقت. غالبا الناس لا يحبون الاشخاص الذين لا يحترمونهم او لا يحترمون وقتهم . انشغال الانسان بحياته شيء طبيعي و مهم لكي يطور حياته ولكن استخدام المسؤليات اليومية المتكررة كآعذار فهذاغالبا له معنى اخر، للاسف و هو ان هذا الشخص لا يحب ان يكون في المكان الذي سيذهب اليه.

غالبا عندما تظهر حقيقة الشخص ، ستقل قيمته عند الاخرين و بالتالي سيقلل احترام الاخرين له و ان ابدو عكس ذلك في حضوره بمعنى الاحترام الحقيقي للانسان من قبل الاخرين، انهم يكنون له مودة واحترام ان كان غائبا أو حاضرا.

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Accept others in your life

Accepting others in your life means really respecting their ideas when you do not agree with them. When a person put rules and expectations from others, he is really making it hard for himself to have friends and he is limiting himself from exploring new ideas in life just because he had put a label on others according to his brief information of them. I think this way will limit his experience in life.

 A person should accept other people’s opinion when they do not have the same opinion as him. Accepting others in a person’s life means accepting the fact, they have the right to show their opinions, ideas and beliefs in front of you even if they are not agreeing with you they should not feel threatened.

Usually, when a person accepts a certain person in his life, such as a friend it should mean he accept his flaws too, even though that does not mean a person does not try to improve himself but I mean he should not always point out his friend’s flaws all of the time. Ironically once a person admits his flaws to himself, he usually tries to improve them.

 

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Smart technology and people

Did the smartphones and other technology forces people in the same place to stop talking to each other or they just use them to avoid people to communicate with them and blame the smart mobiles for their behaviors?

Most people if not all behave in that way: Uses his phone in public. 

I think people MOST of the times chose to use their phones. There are many reasons a person behaves in that way in public or in a gathering.

  • Being bored
  • There are really interesting things on the net that attract them.

Some people may see a person uses a phone in public is an impolite thing to do because it may put an invisible wall between people who are sitting together in the same place. There are some circumstances a person needs to use his phone while he is with others and it is accepted if he did but most of the times it is not accepted.

 

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Fight for Your FREEDOM

On 26 October 2015 a lizard ran away as fast as it can, it climbed to the highest of  its cage and jumped out of it then it crowded or ran as fast as it could with his legs towards the stairs and it climbed the first step of the stairs that lead to the rooftop of our house. When I saw him behaving in that way I realized it was going out for something really important for himself, in fact, it is important for all of us as humans too.

The important thing I had thought of was freedom. Freedom is something every creation and person needs. Most of the times a person fights for his freedom because it is a feeling it forces himself to fight for himself. It is a natural behavior.

I always talk and write about human rights but when the lizard ran away I really felt freedom is a very important thing. It should not just be a topic people talk about if they want to achieve an important position in life or if they were on on on board. It is a very important topic for any person no matter how old he is. Most of the times a person’s physical and verbal freedom are responsible for his creativity because a person’s creativity is linked with his ideas, such as if a person has a thought he wants to write a specific thing but he is not allowed to for any kind of reason, he will have as a result less creativity in his life.

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Occasions and having fun

There are sometimes a person goes to a specific place because most people he knows goes there, but he do not have fun in that place! A person could always search for the special thing in every place or event he goes to,that lets him feel happy.

Every person has his own interests and ideas he likes to talk and hear about them. He should always try to be with people who share his interests to have fun while he hears them and talk to them, by this way you will be looking forward to go to a family gathering. Each person should not force others to hear him or just talk about his favourite topics.

Each person has his own reasons that let him do or avoid doing specific actions or behaviours,he should never be forced to show the reasons he did a specific thing or if he went to a specific place. A person should not do any action or be in any place just because others are there, such as if a person’s family are in a specific place but he do not feel he wants to be there, he should not go because if he went while he do not want he will feel board and may let others feel nerves too.

Family gathering for specific occasion should not let a person feel he his forced to go there. When a person trains himself to always see or pay more attention to the things or people who let him be happier, he will have fun in almost every place he go to.

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Photos off, Real life on

There are some people who like to show off, they are willing to do anything just to show others they can have the things other has. In these days, with the social media accounts they make it easier for a person to show off his things or sometimes himself. It is aa an a very good idea to use social media to advertise or talk about something or idea a person did or has but sometimes a person uses social media places in a wrong way.

Sometimes when a person puts lots of photos of himself without any occasion or reason, he or she is just telling others to see her or his face, body and not the ideas. Social media places are not places for a person to put in them all of his personal life photos and videos. The social media places are meant to connect people together, in these days people are being together by sitting together with their bodies but he is communicating with people who are in social media places. They are not together in any kind of gathering, family or friends because they are busy taking photos using their mobiles to take photos or videos and they forget to really live the moment with their real, full attention.

A person should really live the moment with his full attention, such as if a person is eating cake and he is talking in a conversation, he should not suddenly stop talking just to take a photo of the cake he is eating to share it with friends he does not really know in real life. When a person really pays attention in the thing he is doing rather than the photo, video or words he writes about it, he will really live in that moment and he will most likely be happier too.  A person should have a real life, not a life was he always shows off the thing he does. When a person always shares in the social media his daily things or the things he does most of the times but not daily, he won’t really have privacy in his life.

 

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